Dear Dr. Bill,
I’d encourage you to pray about this matter and to ask God to help you see things from your wife’s perspective. If it’s true that the worship at your church is very formal and the people are unfriendly, I’m wondering why you’d want to remain there.
Could it be out of sense of duty that dates back to your childhood? Perhaps your family has always been part of this denomination and you feel you’d be betraying them if you attended another church.
Or could your loyalty be based in legalism—you feel your church is the only one that worships in a true or “pure” way? Neither of these reasons is justification for putting your marriage at risk and keeping your wife from Christian fellowship.
I’d encourage you to explore some other churches in your community—it’s likely there are several that hold orthodox Christian beliefs but offer a warmer, more inviting worship experience that your wife will relate to.
Thanks for writing Ken.