Dear Dr. Bill,
I’m 9 months pregnant and I would like to know the best way to explain birth to my 4-year-old son.
He’s questioned me several times about how the baby will arrive. I’ve explained that I’m going to the hospital soon and God will help me bring the baby home in special way. However, this is not a satisfactory answer for my inquisitive son. Do you have any suggestions about the best way to explain the birthing process to him?
This is a wonderful opportunity to teach your son about the miracle of birth and the value of human life.
When discussing sexuality with children, the best approach is to give them enough information to satisfy them, without going into so much detail that their little minds are overwhelmed.
It appears that your son’s chief concern is “How is that baby gonna get out of there?”
When my wife was pregnant with our third child, our then 4-year-old son expressed concern that the birth would leave a “big hole in her tummy.”
We simply explained to him that there is a part of mommy’s body below her tummy that God made very special. He designed it so that when the baby is ready to be born, that special part opens up wide enough for the baby to come out. Then, after the baby is born, it goes back to the way it was before. This satisfied him, and he repeated the explanation to his two-year-old sister.
I hope this is helpful Debbie. And congratulations on your new baby!