Do you get into frequent arguments with your spouse, your friends, or your neighbors? You might be slowly killing yourself.
The LA Times is reporting on new study that found that middle-aged adults who frequently fought with their husband or wife were more than twice as likely to die at a relatively young age.
Frequent fights with friends were even more hazardous – people who did this were 2.6 times more likely to die prematurely than people who got along with their pals.
Worst of all were persistent fights with neighbors. The researchers found that people who did THAT were more than three times more likely to die prematurely.
Even when there was no yelling or screaming, simply worrying about friends or loved ones or getting angry over their demands could be enough to shorten one’s life.
People who “always” or “often” fretted about their spouse were almost twice as likely to die during the course of the study compared to those who seldom fretted.
And moms and dads, listen up…those who expended lots of negative mental energy on their children were 55% more likely to die prematurely compared to those who didn’t worry about their kids very often.
All of these associations between stressful social relations and the risk of early death were stronger for men than for women,
Over the 11 years of the research, 4% of the women and 6% of the men in the study died--most often of cancer, but also due to cardiovascular disease, alcohol abuse and accidents.
If any of those descriptions sound familiar to you, perhaps it’s time to see a Christian counselor. And ask God to help you make positive changes in the way you relate to those around you.
By the way, a great book on this topic is “Make Anger Your Ally” by Dr. Neil Clark Warren.I’m Bill Maier for WBCL.