Dear Dr. Bill,
I recently heard you talk about how a father has to juggle his time between family and a job. Right when men are trying to start a business or establish a career, they usually have young children at home. Both are very demanding tasks — can you be successful at both? My husband is in this situation, trying to juggle all of his responsibilities — and I wonder if you have any advice or encouragement I can share with him?
Just about every father struggles to find a balance between the demands of his job and the needs of his family.
As men, God has wired us to provide for our wives and children. That’s a good thing, but because we live in fallen world, sometimes that natural desire can get distorted.
One result is that a man attempts to define his worth by what he does for a living, rather than through his relationship with God and his family. Far too many dads in our society are workaholics who are disconnected from their wives and children.
You can play a key role in providing your husband, with the love, support and encouragement he needs in his role as a husband, father and provider. At the same time, you need to be honest with him if you begin to see that his job is taking precedence over his family.
Young children desperately need both quality AND quantity time with their dads. If your husband is working 60 hours a week or he’s out of town on business trips the majority of the month, your kids will suffer.
One organization that’s working hard to help dads to be all that God wants them to be is the National Fatherhood Initiative. They have many excellent resources for dads, and even some for single moms. You can learn more at their website, which is fatherhood.org.
Thanks for writing Rochelle. If you have a question for me about family issues or Christian living, just click the “Questions” link on the Culture Connection page.