Dear Dr. Bill,
Our 19-year-old son has become an advocate for marijuana use, and worse yet, he believes God thinks it’s okay too. How can we convince him that what he’s doing is not only illegal but dangerous to as well?
Since your son has become a marijuana “advocate,” it will be difficult to persuade him that smoking pot can ultimately harm him. He’ll simply cite so-called “experts” who claim that marijuana is safe and that using it can be beneficial.
At 19 your son is legally an adult, so he is responsible for his own actions and you can’t force him to stop using. However, as you mention, smoking pot is not only dangerous, it’s illegal. If he’s living under your roof, you have a perfect right to require him to stop using the drug.
Sit down with him--when he’s not under the influence--and lovingly let him know that if he insists on using pot, he’s going to need to find his own place to live. Give him a firm deadline and stick to it.
Also, if he’s unemployed and you are paying for his living expenses or education, tell him that if the marijuana use doesn’t stop, those payments are going to stop.
From a theological perspective, your son is going to have a tough time justifying his marijuana use.
1st Peter chapter 4 says that we are to be “clear-minded and self-controlled” and not to live in “debauchery and drunkenness. “
Ask your son if he would be willing to search the bible together, in order to determine how God would want him to live. You might also make an appointment with your pastor to discuss the issue more thoroughly.
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