A mom expresses concern that her son isn’t interested in sports. Show Notes

Tuesday, April 29, 2014 Host(s): Dr. Bill Maier
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Dear Dr. Bill,

I’m concerned about my 6-year-old son who doesn’t have any interest in sports.  We tried soccer, he hated it.  I want to sign him up for basketball but he doesn't want to go.  He used to have swim lessons at the YMCA but he no longer wants to do that.  My son is not athletic at all — he’s very sensitive, kind, and laid back.  And he would rather sit in the house, draw, watch TV, or play video games.  Should I push him to attend sports activities or should I just let him be?


Dear Sandy,

Every child is born with a unique disposition and a different set of gifts and talents.  The fact is that your son may not be athletically inclined.  If that’s the case, the last thing you want to do is force him to participate in activities that he isn’t naturally gifted in.  

On the other hand, it’s important for kids to be active and not spend all of their time watching TV and playing video games.  You need to set firm limits on the amount of time your son spends sitting in front of the TV or computer

You mentioned he likes to draw, which is great.  You might consider enrolling him in some art classes designed for kids his age.  When he gets a little older, a computer-design class might be an option.  

Your son should also be reading for pleasure, socializing with friends, and participating in family activities and chores.  I wouldn’t allow TV or video game time until AFTER he has engaged in other activities of his choice.  

As far as physical activity goes, your son might enjoy individual activities more than team sports.  These could include things like hiking, biking, rollerblading…even golf and tennis. The important thing is to encourage him, not pressure him.  

By the way, you mentioned that your son is sensitive and kind…those are wonderful qualities that should be affirmed.

Thanks for writing, Sandy.  I’m Bill Maier for WBCL.
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