Dear Dr. Bill,
However, I wouldn’t advise putting your daughter’s potential suitors through a formal police interrogation. It’s likely you’ll scare off the boy and make your daughter very unhappy.
Rather than conducting a mini Spanish Inquisition with a prospective boyfriend, a better plan is to get to know him over a period of time. Help your daughter understand that although a person’s looks or personality may be what initially draws us to them; their character will show itself over time.
That’s why it’s not a good idea for teens to rush into a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. Instead, they should get to know each other as friends first, and perhaps do some supervised group dating through their church youth group.
One of the best ways to evaluate the character of a potential dating partner is to observe him in a variety of settings.
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