A dad asks: “What questions should I ask my teenage daughter’s potential boyfriend” Show Notes

Thursday, March 15, 2012 Host(s): Dr. Bill Maier
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Dear Dr. Bill,

Do you have a list of questions that a father should be asking his daughter's potential boyfriend?
 
--Mike

Dear Mike,

We dads are naturally very protective of our daughters. This really comes out when our girls start showing interest in the opposite sex. Just think of a large grizzly bear protecting its precious cubs ;-]

However, I wouldn’t advise putting your daughter’s potential suitors through a formal police interrogation. It’s likely you’ll scare off the boy and make your daughter very unhappy. 

Rather than conducting a mini Spanish Inquisition with a prospective boyfriend, a better plan is to get to know him over a period of time. Help your daughter understand that although a person’s looks or personality may be what initially draws us to them; their character will show itself over time. 

That’s why it’s not a good idea for teens to rush into a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. Instead, they should get to know each other as friends first, and perhaps do some supervised group dating through their church youth group.

One of the best ways to evaluate the character of a potential dating partner is to observe him in a variety of settings. 

How does he treat others? Is he flexible and generous or rigid and selfish? Is he honest, or deceptive? How does he respond when angry or under stress?  Nobody’s perfect, but if the negatives outweigh the positives, it’s time to move on.

Thanks for writing Mike. If you’ve got a question for me about family issues or Christian living, just click on the "Questions" link on the Culture Connection page.

I’m Bill Maier for family-friendly, commercial free, WBCL.

 

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